About SAMRUM
SAMRUM is a tool for families, couples, parent-child relationships, and teenagers. You each take short, age-adapted tests and get reports that describe your relationship patterns — with language and tools you can use in everyday life.
It's a bridge.
Why I built it
My name is Thomas and I'm the founder of SAMRUM. I'm not a psychologist or therapist – I'm a tech person with personal experience. I've been in a relationship for more than 20 years and have two teenage daughters. We're quite different as people – and that's actually a strength. But it takes time to understand differences when you don't have a shared language for them.
I've tried therapy myself and I know what it can do. But I missed a tool you could use earlier – or in between – without it requiring a full course of treatment. Something that helps put words to what's happening, so you can have the conversation yourselves.
SAMRUM is that tool. It's not a replacement for therapy. It's a bridge – between "we're fine" and "we need help". And a starting point for the conversations that otherwise don't happen.
SAMRUM is a conversation tool that helps you understand differences and patterns — and gives concrete suggestions for the next step. It's not therapy, diagnosis, or a verdict. Use it as a mirror, not a judgement.
Data and methodology
The tests are built on OCEAN (Big Five) and IPC (Interpersonal Circumplex) – two of the most validated frameworks in personality research. We translate them into 10 family themes that are easier to talk from than abstract personality types.
Read more about methodology →Privacy and control
- No one can see each other's raw test answers.
- Sharing only happens when you actively choose it — this includes teenagers.
- If you work with a practitioner, the family always controls what is shared and when.
About AI
The AI never sees what anyone answered. It only receives the calculated patterns from the test results. What we do is structure data grounded in established personality research and translate it into language families can talk from. The AI is a translator, not a therapist.
Contact
If you have questions or feedback, feel free to write to me. I read everything and actively use feedback to improve SAMRUM.
Thomas — founder of SAMRUM