What is SAMRUM?
A personality test for the whole family – and a tool for understanding each other better. Everyone takes an age-adapted test and gets a free profile. From there, you can buy reports about the relationships that matter.
Start alone, invite later
You can start alone and see your personality profile for free. When you're ready, invite your partner or teenager. Start with a couple report or a parent-child report – you don't have to wait for the whole family.
Reports tailored to the relationship
A family report focuses on the dynamic in the whole family. A couple report goes deeper into the relationship. A parent-child report is adapted to the child's age. Each report is its own tool – they don't overlap.
Between 'we're fine' and therapy
Some people find it hard to see themselves in therapy – it can feel like a big step to sit in front of a third party. SAMRUM is for that in-between space. It gives you language for things you might not have language for, and helps you have the conversation yourselves. Not instead of therapy – but before, or alongside.
No hidden costs
It's free to sign up, free to take tests, and free to compare profiles. Reports are one-time purchases. No subscription, no commitment, no surprises.
When is it relevant?
When you talk past each other
You say the same things but hear something different. The tone escalates, and afterwards nobody quite knows what it was about. The report shows what happens between you – and gives you words for it.
When therapy feels like a big step
Maybe it's not bad enough for therapy. Or maybe it's just not your thing. SAMRUM gives you a starting point – something concrete to talk from, without having to open up in front of a stranger.
When you just want to check in
It doesn't have to be hard to be useful. Many use it as a check-up – to see if there's something they haven't noticed, or just to learn more about each other.
A typical flow
Create your family
Most families start by creating a family and adding members. You set name and role (adult, teenager, or child) for each person.
- Only adults can invite new members
- Children don't need their own email address
- People can be part of multiple families (e.g. with shared custody)
- Define relationships between family members
Take age-adapted tests
Once the family is set up, each person can take their age-adapted test. Children from age 6 get short questions with simple language. Teenagers and adults get more nuanced questions.
- Adults: 80 questions
- Teenagers: 60 questions
- Children (around 6–12): 50 questions with simple language
- The test can be taken at your own pace – with breaks
Get your profile
When the test is done, you get your free personality profile. If you want to understand the dynamics between you more deeply, you can then buy one or more reports.
- Personality profile: included free with the test
- Individual report: visible to the person themselves
- Relationship reports: visible to adults in the family but can be shared with teens
- No subscription – one-time purchase per report
Use the report together
If you buy a report, it shows where you click, where you clash, and gives concrete suggestions for things to try.
- What works well between you
- Where you typically misunderstand each other
- Conflict patterns
- Concrete suggestions to try in everyday life
- Things to watch out for
Take age-adapted tests
Get your profile
Good to know
Answers are private
No one can see your raw test answers. Reports only show patterns between people, never individual answers.
Focus on patterns
Reports describe dynamics between you – how you react to each other and where you can adjust.
Valid here and now
Reports describe patterns based on your answers right now. They're not fixed truths, and you can always take the test again later.
Not therapy
SAMRUM doesn't replace professional help. For serious challenges, we recommend seeking professional support.
Pick one focus — and feel the difference in your everyday life
Your profiles show 10 axes. That's a lot to take in at once. A focus track takes one area and gives you 4 weeks of everyday tools. It can be just for you, or about a pattern between you and someone else.
Each week you get a short message in the app: an observation, a micro-experiment, and a reflection. It takes 2-3 minutes to read. You choose which day you want it delivered.
Personal tracks adapt to your profile. Together tracks use both profiles and give each person their own perspective — the other's is framed as a hypothesis, not an assertion.
A track is only relevant if you recognise the pattern. If not — skip it. It's about what you experience, not what the profiles say.
Based on your data
The track uses test results — yours alone or both people's. It's not a one-size-fits-all guide. It's written for your specific situation.
Delivered weekly in the app
One message per week. Observation, experiment, reflection. Under 3 minutes to read. You choose delivery day and time.
Self-help, not therapy
A tool for navigating everyday life more intentionally. No diagnosis, no treatment. Focus is on what you can do — not what's wrong.
Examples of tracks
Your pace after a pressured day
Find an easier transition between 'on' and 'home'
Your balance between yes and no
Close the gap between what you say and what you mean
You'll only see tracks where your profiles suggest recognition. If none of them land — it's simply not relevant right now.
Help in the moment — "Right now"
Reports describe patterns. Focus tracks work with them over 4 weeks. But neither helps right after an argument — when your pulse is still racing.
"Right now" is a free self-help guide you can open when you need it. You choose who it's about, answer 4-5 short questions, and get a personal guide with pattern recognition, a chain warning, and a concrete plan for the next few hours.
The guide uses both people's profiles — so it knows something about the other person's perspective, even though they're not present. It's not therapy and not a chat. It's one complete answer that validates your state and gives you something concrete to do.
Pattern recognition
The guide identifies the pattern you're in and describes it as a cycle — A reacts, B withdraws, A escalates. Never blame, always both sides.
A plan for the next few hours
What you can do right now, what to avoid, and a 10-second minimal version if you don't have the energy for more.
Repair when you're ready
Three scripts you can use as a starting point — for yourself, to the other person, or as a conversation starter. Based on both profiles' repair axis.
Free. Requires completed test for both people.
Frequently asked questions about the personality test
The test measures 10 family themes — including need for structure, emotional reactivity, social energy, conflict handling, and repair after disagreements. These are personality traits described in a family context, not assessments of behaviour or judgements about right and wrong ways to be.
AI writes the report based on your test data. It doesn't invent anything — it translates your scores into language you can use in everyday life. The AI has no access to other families' data and is not trained on your answers.
Yes. You can stop and continue later — your answers are saved automatically as you go. You don't need to finish the test in one sitting. Many people spread it over a couple of days.
Yes. Start with those who are ready. Even two people's data gives a useful picture. You can begin with a couple report or parent-child report and add more family members later.
A together track is a 4-week programme about one pattern between two people — like partners, a teenager, or a child. Both get their own perspective based on their profile. The other person's perspective is framed as a hypothesis, not an assertion. Teenagers (13-17) can participate by invitation.
Yes. Teenagers (13-17) can both buy their own personal focus tracks and participate in together tracks with an adult. Personal tracks are 100% private — you can't see them. Together tracks are started by an adult, and the teenager receives an invitation. Children under 13 don't participate actively — the parent uses the perspective toggle instead.
Yes. SAMRUM works in the browser on all devices — phone, tablet, and computer. You can also download the app for iOS and Android. Your profile, test answers, and reports sync automatically across devices.
16Personalities and Enneagram give you a type — like INFJ or Type 4. That's intuitive and easy to remember, but generalising. SAMRUM gives you a profile with 10 axes and sub-facets that's unique to you. With AI, we go deeper than a type label and describe your actual patterns in a family context. Read about our scientific methodology.
SAMRUM is built on two well-established research frameworks: OCEAN (Big Five) from Costa & McCrae (1992) — the dominant model in personality psychology — and IPC (Interpersonal Circumplex) from Wiggins (1979) for relational behaviour. Questions are inspired by IPIP (International Personality Item Pool), an open item bank (Goldberg et al., 2006), but adapted and reformulated for a family context — with situational items and trade-off items that capture dynamics between people. The Big Five structure has been shown to be robust across contexts (Soto & John, 2017; Donnellan et al., 2006). You'll never encounter technical terms — we translate into 10 family themes. Read more on our methodology page.
We use a systemic approach: conflicts are described as mutual cycles ("Alma reacts → Julie withdraws → Alma escalates"), never as linear cause-and-effect. This is the core principle of systemic family therapy (Bateson, 1972; Minuchin, 1974). The same person can have different patterns with different family members. The report never says "it's your fault" — it shows what happens between you, based on Gottman's couples research (1994) and attachment theory (Bowlby, 1969; Johnson, 2008). Read more about our systemic approach.
"Right now" is free self-help in SAMRUM you can use right after an argument — or when something feels wrong in a relationship. You choose who it's about, answer 4-5 short questions, and get a personal moment guide based on your profiles. The guide includes pattern recognition, a chain warning about what typically happens next, a concrete plan for the next few hours, and repair suggestions for when you're ready. It's not therapy — it's one complete answer, personalised to your specific combination of personality profiles. Requires both people to have completed the test.
No. "Right now" is free and will stay free. When your pulse is racing after an argument, there shouldn't be a paywall in the way. You just need an account, and both people must have completed the test. There's no limit on the number of guides, but the system ensures a reasonable pace so you don't use it as a substitute for conversation.
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Create a family and take the first tests. The personality profile is free.
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