Work and family
Employee benefits people actually use
The company gym gets used by the people who train anyway. Why family benefits carry higher perceived value, and why anonymity decides whether a mental-health offer gets used at all.
4 min readWork and family
What can an employer offer when the problem is at home?
The employee says it's busy – but the problem is at home. A walk through psychologist schemes, EAP and family benefits: where they arrive too late, and what a layer before them could be.
4 min readWork and family · Everyday life
When home life comes to work
The argument in the car at 7.40 isn't over when you park. It sits in your shoulders through the first meeting. Why the family comes along to work – and what you can do about it.
4 min readSelf-insight · Communication
We layered over 240 personalities on top of each other. No two were alike.
Are there really 16 personality types? We layered over 240 personality profiles on top of each other – and saw why relationships need more than boxes.
5 min readSelf-insight · Communication
"She's just so easy to be with" – it's often meant as a compliment
"She's just so easy to be with." It's often meant as a compliment. But sometimes it's a warning.
4 min readParent-child · Communication
"How was your day?" "Fine." Sometimes silence is also a pattern
"How was your day?" "Fine." When the conversation has stopped, it's rarely about the teenager – but about a pattern between you.
4 min readRelationship · Communication
"We don't fight." That's the problem.
When a couple stops fighting, it doesn't always mean peace. Sometimes it's frozen conflict under a quiet surface.
4 min readRelationship · Parent-child
"You say no. I say yes." The child feels the difference before you've talked about it
Two adults with different answers in the same situation. It's rarely the disagreement itself – but how hard it is to find your way back to a shared line.
5 min readCommunication · Relationship
Repair starts with 90 seconds
Research shows the first minutes after an argument matter more than the argument itself. The repair window closes gradually – and your brain works against you.
6 min readEveryday life · Communication
Holidays reveal what everyday life hides
When the calendar empties, the noise disappears. What's left is you – and the patterns you didn't notice when you were busy.
3 min readTeenager · Everyday life
When you finally have time off – and it doesn't feel like it
Everyone says you should relax. But you can't. Maybe it's not about the holiday – but about what surfaces when you stop.
3 min readParent-child · Everyday life
A good life in the family matters most – what does that mean in practice?
Research shows the family is the most important arena for young people's wellbeing. But what is 'a good life in the family' in everyday life?
4 min readAI & ethics
AI ethics in practice: privacy, consent, and 'who owns the family narrative?'
When AI describes your family, who decides what gets said? And who gets to see it?
4 min readAI & ethics
AI in therapy: what can AI help with – and what shouldn't it do?
AI can mirror, structure, and start conversations. But it can't listen, judge, or treat. The difference matters.
4 min readParent-child · Everyday life
Bad weeks, not bad kids – why 'rough patches' don't always mean a child in crisis
A bad week is a bad week – not a verdict. The art is distinguishing between phases and patterns.
4 min readAI & ethics
Data ethics dilemmas in welfare: when efficiency affects the relationship
AI can make welfare faster. But faster isn't always better when it involves people.
5 min readAI & ethics
The EU AI Act and mental health: what does 'high-risk' mean for ordinary people?
Some AI systems may be classified as 'high-risk.' Here's what that means, and what the transparency requirements are about.
4 min readEveryday life · Communication
Everyday stress: When the pace is too high for anyone to be their best self
No one is their best self at quarter to eight in the morning. And that's when most conflicts start.
4 min readCommunication · Parent-child
Everything we don't say at the dinner table
The conversation is about food, the weekend, the logistics. But under the surface lies everything no one says out loud.
4 min readRelationship · Communication
'We're not ready for therapy' – 5 signs you can still get a lot from a shared language
Therapy isn't the only way. Sometimes it's just about finding a shared language before the patterns lock in.
4 min readRelationship · Everyday life
'One plans, the other improvises' – how it becomes a pattern (and not a fight)
When structure meets spontaneity, friction arises. Not because anyone's right – but because the needs are different.
4 min readParent-child · Communication
'Our teen says nothing' – 12 questions that work better than 'how was your day?'
'How was your day?' always gets the same answer: 'Fine.' Here are 12 questions that open more.
4 min readCommunication · Relationship
Conflict isn't the problem – it's the lack of repair
Every family has conflict. What sets them apart is what happens afterwards.
4 min readBlended family · Parent-child
Blended family: Why 'same rules for everyone' sometimes makes things worse
Fairness in a blended family isn't about sameness. It's about each child feeling seen in their situation.
4 min readCommunication · Relationship
The same arguments, over and over – what if it's not about what you think?
The argument about the dishwasher is never about the dishwasher. It's about what lies underneath.
4 min readRelationship · Everyday life
When did we become teammates instead of partners?
You run everyday life perfectly. The logistics work. But when did you stop being partners and become project managers?
4 min readRelationship · Parent-child
When the relationship creaks, the children feel it
You haven't argued. But the mood has shifted. And children react to the climate long before any words are spoken.
4 min readParent-child · Communication
Your child isn't testing limits – they're looking for them
When your child pushes, it's not to provoke. It's to find out where you are.
4 min readParent-child · Communication
They haven't become difficult. They've grown up.
Your teenager isn't the same person they were three years ago. That means you can't be either.
4 min readRelationship · Communication
You don't need to agree that you have a problem
Most people wait until things are hard enough. But curiosity is a better starting point than crisis.
3 min readCommunication · Relationship
The silence after the conflict – and what it really means
The conflict is over. But no one's talking. Is it peace – or distance? The difference matters.
4 min readCommunication · Relationship
You say 'we need to talk.' They hear 'you've done something wrong.'
The gap between what you mean and what they hear is where conflicts start. Not in the words – but in the translation.
3 min readBlended family · Communication
New family, new patterns – when two families become one
Everyone is trying their best. But no one talked about what they expected. And that's where the invisible patterns start.
3 min readParent-child · Siblings
That's not fair! – why fairness matters so much to children
When children say 'that's not fair,' it's not drama. It's a deep need to be treated as equal. And it starts earlier than you think.
3 min readParent-child · Siblings
When siblings react completely differently to the same thing
One child explodes. The other withdraws. Same parents, same situation – completely different reactions. It's not random.
3 min read